POTENTIAL TRIGGER POST
This is an emotive post - but we should be having open and frank discussions on it. It straddles mental health - but also personal values. There aren’t right/wrong answers here - but I’m interested to hear peoples view or the subject.
Whilst the RAFAC Mindful meetings (or whatever they are called) are good - there’s a lot of unspoken stuff going on in the background which people don’t necessarily want to share with their names or squadron numbers attached. And here is, as we know, a nice, supportive cathartic environment to share things in!
So. The last two years have been so incredibly challenging for so many people across so many different levels -
- personal health - with the impacts of covid on personal health, impacts on the NHS delaying health treatments (or inability to access treatment), overall health and wellbeing and mental health impacts,
- family life - with lost love ones, critical illnesses and mental health, the horror of home schooling, dealing with children under your feet 24/7, isolating, queuing for toilet rolls, or simply lacking the contact with close family members during those special moments - birthdays, anniversaries - and funerals etc
- work life - with impacts on income, furlough, unemployment underworking or overworking, changes in work patterns or styles, hybrid working, increasing challenges and dynamics, office changes (or not!), changes in jobs and careers and skills shifts
- friends and extended network - with friends and support network all experiencing some of the changes above - and sharing those experiences with you as part of their own support network
- volunteering - with hobbies and interests being paused, being replaced by “online” activities, an adjustment of priorities/focus, and a mixed bag of people returning as/when - many of which experiencing some of the things above, a loss of outlet for personal growth and development. In contrast, I also know some people have taken up additional hobbies/volunteering opportunities - who’ve found themselves with additional time, who enjoyed volunteering whilst on furlough and have embraced these new things with open arms.
For me, one of the biggest elements I’ve seen shift in my personal psyche, has been my tolerance levels to unnecessary BS are far, far lower than they were 2 years ago. My priorities have shifted - not entirely realigned - but shifted significantly enough that I do question things a lot more; finding myself asking “Is the juice worth the squeeze?” a lot more.
Speaking to peers inside and outside of work, they are all feeling the same. People are being more frank, open and honest (which isn’t a bad thing). I’m definitely challenging more things at work - not quite working to rule - but definitely working more focused and targeted towards the things that matter - and not the faff and peripheral nonsense.
A colleague identified that they too have seen a shift in their own personal values - they feel more ownership of “their time” than ever before; they have found the life-work balance much easier to control - including their volunteering - and have drawn down the number of activities they are doing.
I personally found for the first time in 20 years, I didn’t have anything to do 2 nights and week and most weekends. I didn’t get on with “online delivery” - it didn’t fit my skillset. But, also, we found the cadets weren’t that fussed about it either - we gave them the choice but feedback from them was “we’ve just done 6 hours infront of Zoom/Teams/Moodle - we don’t want any more”.
Over the last two years I essentially broke a habit 20 year habit. I found other things to do and occupy myself - including spending more time with my family and - when covid restrictions eased - friends. I’ve partially offset my volunteering with RAFAC with doing other things. As such, I like to maximise the time I spend with RAFAC doing purposeful activities for the benefit of cadets (rather than choking on BS and admin).
I’ve also noticed the tolerance levels among others has also changed too. I’m definitely seeing more kickback and resistance than before - in work and RAFAC; historically for RAFAC this has been tongue in cheek - but now there is definitely an higher level of resistance. An element of this may also, of course, come from people’s own personal resilience - I’ve seen people leave because on returning things have been harder than when covid struck.
On the other hand, I’ve also heard several comments from peers this week (two from the horses mouth and two I’ve filed as “duty rumours”) which suggest that the volunteers aren’t necessarily getting the support they need/deserve; the expression “you’re welcome to volunteer elsewhere” was prevalent in both cases - but from separate ends of the country.
It will be interesting to hear others experiences - how do you think the covid has impacted on you as individuals, on your squadrons or staff, on your own motivations etc. And, as RAFAC, how do we respect these impacts, how do we embrace the changes people have made, and how do we bring people back into the fold (if needed).