I’m another with views that echo yours.
Moving Sqn/Wing/Region just before covid hit and taking over a Sqn as OC the week of lockdown was bloody hard. For over twelve months we maintained virtual parade nights, often twice a week with weekend virtual activities maybe once a month. Before moving I was an OC and held two Wing SME roles, was out of the house two nights a week, most weekends and then on my nights at home I would often be doing paperwork, so only having to do two virtual parade nights was actually easier, with no rushing home from work to choose whether to have something to eat or to put my uniform on before dashing to the Sqn. Because I’d done it for so long, it was normal, I hadn’t realised that the work/life/RAFAC balance was way out.
Pre-covid I wouldn’t have thought twice about staying up to past midnight to redo paperwork that had been bounced back for ridiculous reasons so that Cadets didn’t miss out, whereas now I find myself pushing back, questioning local rules, despairing at some of the policies we now have to work with and just putting it in the too difficult box, and if Cadets miss out, then they miss out.
I had to deal with what could only be described as a horror show at my last Sqn, it’s completely killed off the enthusiasm I once had for the organisation. I’m in the process of moving to a new Wing / Region and the offer on the table was OC of a Sqn that completely needs rebuilding from scratch. I’m really not in the right mindset to do that at the moment, I’ve done it in the past and may well do it in the future, but right now, no. Don’t get me wrong, the smile on a Cadets face when they achieve something is still worth it but I’m not prepared to sacrifice my life to the extent that I did before, for an organisation that wouldn’t even be interested in why I was leaving if I sent in my resignation.
I have been a CFAV for over half my life, I hold (&use!) qualifications that allow Cadets to do the fun stuff, AT, Fieldcraft, Ranges, I also hold the not so fun ones, like radio & cyber (sorry to radio & cyber geeks ). I was a Cadet back in the day when we all piled into the back of the OC’s van to go rock climbing, without a second thought to AT quals and risk assessments, I’ve seen the changes come in under various Commandants, but the current level of BS, paperwork and not forgetting the local rules depending on the Wing / Region you happen to be in is something else.
I have several friends who have already resigned, no-one asked them their reasons or tried to change their situation so they’d stay on and several more who are teetering on the edge and it’s not going to take much to push them over it, they’re worn down by the demands from all sides, from HQAC, Region, Wing, Parents and even Cadets. These are experienced, knowledgeable people who are walking away when actually, like me, they just need a bit of support, a change in their CFAV role, to get them back to doing fun stuff with Cadets, to reinvigorate them.