Hi, new here. Long time lurker, first time poster.
Basically need some advice. I’m a pre-ATF Sgt with high functioning autism, which was only recently diagnosed. I have been with my current Sqn for five years and was recently granted an extension.
I am struggling massively, not only on the Sqn but also throughout wing. I have been held back, held back and held back from going to ATF, it took me two attempts to pass my board that nobody had prepared me for (ie I was asked questions on things I hadn’t expected to come up & things I hadn’t been told would come up), and in addition to that it took so long for me to actually get to the stage of a board (I was asking & asking & asking & getting nothing).
I feel totally let down by everybody from my wing commander down, including my own OC. And this leads me on to my other problem:
My OC knows I have HFA, yet clearly favours another member of staff over me. I have broken my back for my squadron for the last five years in order to get it to this stage. However, parade nights are regularly changed without letting me know. Example - last week I was only told about a change of uniform when I asked because I’d seen an email to a cadet with the correct uniform.
The OC regularly changes his mind about things that staff have been consulted on, and I always appear to be the last to find out. The mantra seems to be ‘it’s my train set and I don’t need any help playing with it’ even when I have suggested ideas that would improve the metaphorical train set.
I took time out from the squadron earlier this year as I was feeling a little bit taken for granted with how much I do for the squadron. Instead of trying to improve it for me, the OC accused me of dropping the Sqn in the proverbial (which was sort of the reason I did it).
There are also several other issues that I won’t raise now.
I have got to the point where I cannot continue in this way, however I was told when I asked about becoming supernumary at another Sqn that because I haven’t done SSIC, I can’t. Trouble is I want to move before I go to ATF. And due to my problems in the Wing, I want to move wings. However I don’t know if this is allowed because I still have white tabs.
If anybody has any advice it will be an enormous help.