Is there such a thing in the RAFAC?
Maybe their rank?
The only issue I ever find with ranks is when cadets donât know staff members and meet them in civvies (camps/weekends/sports etc)
Would anyone object to being called âstaffâ in this situation until they know who you are? I donât and it fixes the Sir/Maâam problem in the only situation I could think of that they couldnât use rank.
It causes issues in the ACF but that is not our problem.
Ask them?
I think given that we have ranks, we donât need to use gender neutrals.
I would also say the person who has decided they want to be addressed by gender neutrals will have already made this clear.
No harm in asking. No point making a problem where there isnât one.
Donât disagree with this in the slightest, it would be my first thing to do.
I was more thinking in situations where people want to be polite but donât have time to stop and ask for names and ranks.
I couldnât care less when they donât know who I am but we all know people out there who do and would make a huge fussâŚ
No, there isnât. Bit odd for an organisation that claims to be progressive and all that.
Again, have you heard of calling people by their rank? Theyâre gender neutral, and advertised on the clothing.
Personally, Iâd consider âstaffâ (in this form) rude. I canât really justify why though.
So would I, I would expect those who donât know to go with Sir/Maâam in the first instance. Apart from little Hitlers no one is going to complain about being called by a higher honorific than they are entitled to. (They would of course then correctly, but it can be done without criticism).
Yes, I have, but it is clearly not directly equivalent to Sir/Maâam. We also donât have a standard approach or any guidance about what to do in these situations.
We could go âStar Trekâ and call everyone Sir regardlessâŚ
I seem to recall everyone said Sir to Capt Janeway
There doesnât need to be. Youâre making a mountain out of a molehill.
Example - I walk into a room and speak to Squadron Leader Joe Bloggs.
Me- âGood evening, Sirâ.
Them - âGood evening, Valiant. Please donât take this as criticism but Iâd prefer to be called Squadron Leader or Maâam or (input literally anything appropriate)â
Me - âNo problem, I will remember that from now on.â
There really doesnât need to be guidance for this.
I disagree . Anytime you specify something that happens for male/female and exclude non-binary people you are excluding people.
My point still stands hence the (insert anything appropriate here).
If said person tells me they want to be referred to as âthey/themâ then fine. However in a large organisation such as this, we refer to people by their ranks or as Sir/Maâam until they tell us different because unless you know them already, then you simply wonât know.
Unless youâre saying we shouldnât have Sir/Maâam at all, which then @Baldrick point stands and we use the ranks on the shoulder. This really doesnât need to be made into an issue.
You are essentially saying common sense should prevail, and while I agree with that, I am more than sure in the real world that wonât always happen. There are still a lot of misinformed CFAVs when it comes to lgbtq+. A bit of inclusion to suggest not everyone will fall into sir/maâam when teaching about ranks is all thatâs needed.
I understand your sentiment and I fully agree that common sense is not always as common as it should be.
Nevertheless, it really is down to the individual to speak and say âIâm not comfortable being referred to as Sir/Maâam, please call me (insert rank or appropriate title)â.
Some extra guidance/education is never a bad thing but it really is down to the individual in question. Unless you know that person already, you wonât know whether Sir/Maâam is inappropriate until they tell you. The only way to get round a one off possible offending incident is a blanket ban on Sir/Maâam altogether.
However surely this is an area where we are still bound by the parent services way of doing things?
in the âReal Worldâ people do not get offended by initial contact being wrong, and will politely correct the terms, they will not become attention seeking mountain builders. Yes back on planet earth I have got peoples termss wrong but not met anyone offended, but no doubt there will be a first time.
I canât agree with @Valiant and @WellIbedammed moreâŚthose who are not sir/maâam will raise a hand and let the person know their preference not expect someone to knowâŚ
And as for a default gender neutral term I feel that is over correcting an issue.
The use of rank is not that unusual when used as a title and see no issue with someone nonbinary requesting to be addressed by rank onlyâŚit is how we address medical Doctors which is a title and form of address which is gender neutralâŚ