I have some sympathy for perm staff and the mindset to CFAV’s… I’m not on the crazy end of time dedicated to cadets, but I would say I’m pretty high on the spectrum.
However; I am self employed, so no boss to upset and although my partner has never been a cadet or been to sqn, he is very supportive of cadet activities (likely as it gets me out the way). My partner and I can’t naturally have kids (being two he’s) and neither of us want to have our own anyway.
So I am able to funnel a tonne of time into cadets.
I have to check myself sometimes, and remind myself that a lot of colleagues are not in the same boat, and have a boss and larger immediate family to accommodate.
I like to think I’m pretty aware of what’s happening around me, and every now and then I have to keep my expectations of others back into check, it isn’t reasonable for me to expect a CFAV with a young family to be as quick to react to things as I might be…
So with that in mind I can see how if full time employed, and you are dealing with a mix of full timers and volunteer staff how the expectation may become out of whack.
Interestingly I have a friend that works full time for the RSPB, and she vents her frustrations about the volunteers from time to time, so it’s interesting to hear what she says looking at it from the other way round, albeit in a different organisation.