The courses are not designed to do those things. In the ATC, Scouts, ACF and so on, you get the people prepared to take the crap, who might not be those best placed in different ways to actually do the job. I’ve known people who have jobs that take them away from home for weeks at a time and yet they are the sqn cdr, as there is no one else to do it. Then there are those who hit sticky times personally but still carry on, but don’t get the support from other staff, like they should expect.
When the crap (this can be from anywhere) gets too much they decide not for me and go, which just throws the sqn into turmoil.
The problem is unlike work, you find there are people on squadrons don’t think for themselves and need to be lead and or instructed, as they work on the assumption that as the OC will do it all. I’ve had staff who have had senior/lead roles at work and when you challenge them as to why you don’t see the sort of behaviours they will exhibit at work at the sqn, they get defensive. I’ve always worked on a system of you have the idea, you make it happen, don’t expect others to pick it up.
I found as a CI and since I’ve done things as I’ve thought I’ll do that as it will help of my own volition, which I’ve done throughout my working life and in other areas where I volunteer.