I can say for people who want to seem progressive etc, there seems to be some very staid and if not puritanical in their views about teenage relationships.
How many here spouting the ‘it shouldn’t ever happen’ line have sons/daughters who are in the ‘offending’ age groups and do their views of what should and shouldn’t happen, happen at home. Believe me when I say try the puritanical approach here at home, be prepared for a tantrum and defiance. There is no difference between your 15/16 yo daughter’s head being turned by an 18/19 yo lad with a motorbike or car, or, your 21 yo son going out with a 17 yo, than the same situation happening in the ATC, ie adults in relationships with minors. Except in real life we don’t have people making up some rules based arbitrary notions, of positions of trust etc. TBH these relationships blow over after a little while, so let them run their course. Since having girls in the Corps I can’t recall a situation where one or more boys/girls haven’t ‘gone through the sqn’ and back again in terms of teen relationships. Mind you that happened at school and 6th Form so why the ATC is going to be or expected to be different, when the age groups concerned are a cauldron of hormones, I don’t know. It would be abnormal if it were.
I just hope the stone throwers here were as ‘pure’ in their early relationships and didn’t find themselves in a relationship outside the boundaries they see fit to impose, because the club suggests it. Otherwise the glaziers will be busy.
The ultimate guidance in all of these situations is parents not us.
It is also worth pointing out that we only control about 2% of their week so what happens outside of this has nothing to do with us. Which is why it’s about the parents and not us.
What would be people's reactions if an 18/19 yo or either gender was 'going out' with a 16 yo of either gender, and said it was inappropriate, but then they just carried on outside the sqn?